“You don’t have to be a “person of influence” to be influential. In fact, the most influential people in my life are probably not even aware of the things they’ve taught me.” – Scott Adams
I am a strong believer in the saying that we meet people for a reason. Recently I’ve become quite aware of that and this morning I had kind of an epiphany in a way. Getting off a phone call with my mom and having a bit of time to just think in the train, I realised that the ones who inspire us and even the ones who don’t act as some sort of mirror of how we want our life to turn out – or not.
A good example is the influence one of my closest friends right now has on me. With the way she is leading life in certain aspects she reminds me of how I want to live my life. Let me give you an example (and I hope she is okay with me writing about her):
She moved in September and does not yet have Wifi or internet besides the limited internet on her phone, which is sufficient for communication of course, but for a Netflix and Prime Junkie like me, it would be like rehab. I think even if she had Wifi at home she would rather sit on the couch with a hot water bottle, a blanket and a good book. It has been a long time since I had a morning like that. Mostly because I spend so much time in front of my laptop for University; I’m used to open it first thing when I sit down. It has become so normal to have any “Entertainment” in Moving-Picture-form on, that I can’t remember the last time I really took time to eat my meals in silence and be forced to deal with my own thoughts or sit down to read a book. My mom says, it might also be because I have to read so much for university or have to stare at small screens all day.
I think it is because the modern day world allows us to be sprinkled with things without really processing it, some form of lazy thinking process or something. Realising that I grew more aware of my electronic consumption, including my phone use, I started trying to not pick up my phone first thing in the morning to check insta or scroll through my mail, but to leave it and instead turn on a podcast while going through my morning routine.
Last Sunday I had one of the most grounded Sundays in a long time where we just sat there with a cup of tea, played cards and talked. Something so simple that meant so much. It is really hard to find people whom you can have such honest conversations with and spend time in such a simple and uncomplicated way. Life is complicated enough most of the time so this lazy Sunday was much appreciated. It reminded me of how good it is to Pause the crazy “study-work-and-achieve-something-in-your-life-or-nobody-will-love-you” mode every now and then.
I became pretty aware of my eating habits as well and especially of how bad they have become. I ate irregularly, mostly in the evening because I did not have any time during the day. Or the absolute opposite, where I ate so many small unhealthy meals during the day because I did not have the time to eat a regular one. And if I ate, a lot of the times it was junk food, something that I could wipe up quickly or even takeout.
And again my friend was such a good example to follow. Despite her crazy working hours she manages to eat regularly and really healthy. I guess eating healthy has a lot to do with how we consume our meals and how aware we are when we are eating. So the moment I started to eat my meals without background entertainment besides my thoughts, I started to become more aware of what I eat. I started to cook and I found that I actually really like the kind of gratifying solitude that accompanies it. I always enjoyed cooking but dreaded it because it took so much time. But when I look at it now it almost seems like some sort of meditation, dedicated “me time” if you will.
It still takes getting used to those changes but right now I feel so much satisfaction coming out of it, I will try to continue it for as long as I can. And with all the good influence surrounding me, I think I can actually change at least some of my habits for good, thanks to my friend!